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The Good Wife's Guide or How Not to Make Your Mad Men Mad
Thursday, 26 August 2010 15:14

Many years ago, my mother gave me a copy of this article as an example of the way things were when she was was first married at 17. With all the hype surrounding the television series Mad Men and the Emmy Awards which will air Sunday night on NBC (the show is nominated for five awards),we thought you would enjoy this article to celebrate Women's Equality Day. The following is taken from an article that appears to come from a women's magazine in 1955. Needless to say, we've come a long way since then.

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The Good Wife's Guide

Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favourite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.

Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest, so you'll be refreshed when he arrives.  Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.

Be a little gay and a little more interesting of him. His boring day may need a life and one of your duties is to provide it. Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper etc and then run a dustcloth over the tables.

Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a life too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.

Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. Minimise all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.

Be happy to see him.

Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.

Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, bu the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.

Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment with you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.

Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.

Don't greet him with complaints and problems.

Don't complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he night have gone through that day.

Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.

Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.

Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgement or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.

A good wife always knows her place.

(see original article from Housekeeping Monthly in link below.)

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It doesn't say the name of the author on the article, but chances are it was written by a man as most of the writers for publications in 1955 were men.



 

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+2 # 2010-08-26 16:59
Oh my God! I am so glad that my Mom (and Dad) chose to teach me how to change a tire and ride a motorbike (and play poker) instead of this crap!
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